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signs of anger |
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Ron's story |
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what's wrong with anger? |
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hidden anger |
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cause of anger |
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changing thinking |
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arresting anger |
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transmuting anger |
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ARRESTING ANGER
Anger can be so explosive and compelling that it is impossible to change our thinking there and then. To give us time and opportunity to calm down enough we need certain measures which will have an immediate arresting effect upon the anger. These are described in the Transmuting Anger CDs and we share them with you now:
1. Stop speaking altogether
2. Immediately move away, out of sight if possible
3. Curl the tongue back in the mouth and press it against the upper palate
to reduce the power of our thoughts
4. Drink ice-cold water to cool the blood
5. Lie down flat on the floor or bed
6. Look in the mirror at the ugliness in the face
7. If the anger is really strong, engage in vigorous muscular activity
(power-walking, sit-ups, house cleaning) but without punching or kicking anything.
8. Sing your favourite song over and over
9. Go to a water tap and try to make your voice sound like the running water.
The first two in the list are essential.
If strong anger is to be arrested you must escape from the situation somehow.
Do not pursue your protagonist if they move away – respect that and be grateful.
And it is vital that you do not add fuel to the fire by continuing to speak – just excuse yourself politely (if stiffly) and retreat.
After this, any one or more of the above steps will help you. It works! Try it and see.
